Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Lesson #12: Honoring the Person You Are

You may recall that last week I spoke out against the habit of being grumpy and depressed, but the truth is that we're all human and we all have our ups and downs. (We just don't need to pitch a tent and hang out in that grumpy place indefinately!) This week I wanted to help you honor yourself just the way you are.

There are thousands of practices, exercises, teachers, therapies, articles, books, blogs and Websites out there that are designed to help you understand and know yourself better. There are even more resources available to help you "improve" yourself, which you may have been working on extensively for years.

For this week or this month, especially if you're feeling a little frayed around the edges, please consider dropping all efforts to be a better person, and focus your attention on honoring and accepting the person you are right here and now.

Maybe you can accept yourself just for today, with all your warts and bruises, with all your late bills and "failed" relationships.The fact that you chose to be on this planet during this rocky time of human evolution means that you are a pretty remarkable being.

Take a moment to push aside any criticism you have of yourself, any regrets from the past or doubts about the future. Like Stuart Smalley from Saturday Night Live used to practice: take a deep breath, smile at yourself in the mirror, and say, "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggonit, people like me!"

If we can keep our sense of humor about us, it's not that hard to laugh at the bumbling mistakes we humans make. Trying to be perfect, or to be someone we're not, can ruin all our fun. And, sweetheart, it's still okay to have fun.